Missionary Mom: My Role as a Mother on the Mission Field
Note: This is in response to a church's question about the role of a missionary mom.
(5/17/97)
(1) My church responsibilities include cleaning the
church, playing the piano on Sundays, leading songs at the Midweek service, typing the
bulletin, and keeping church financial records. After every Sunday service we have lunch
for everybody, so I need to start preparing the meal on Saturday evenings or early Sunday
morning. Sunday lunch is a great time of fellowship. Since most Japanese have never been
in a church before, they have a lot of fears and anxieties. Getting together after the
service gives us an opportunity to get to know each other better and makes the church a
warm, inviting place.
(2) My family responsibilities include taking care of our
3 sons (Joseph, born in 1995; Samuel, born in 1997; Elijah, born in 1999), doing the
laundry (In Japan, everything is dried outside on the line, even in the cold, snowy
winter), changing diapers, making meals, grocery shopping (you wouldn't believe the high
prices, for example, milk is about $8.00/gallon!), and cleaning house. We sleep on the
floor Japanese style, so one of my jobs is to lay out the futon (thin, cotton-filled
mattresses) and blankets every night, and put them away in the closet in the morning. I am
also the family barber, not because I'm good but because a simple man's haircut costs
around $40 at the barber shop!
(3) My evangelism responsibilities include more than just
stamping and passing out thousands of tracts. I often take goodies (homemade cookies,
pies, cakes, etc.) to the neighbors or people we are reaching out to. Sometimes I help
"Grandma" next door with her garden. I often get together with neighbor ladies
and young mothers like Mrs. Nanami Sasaki. Sometimes I visit their homes and take our boys
so that the children can play together while we talk. I also invite the ladies to the
church so we can visit and try new recipes. The other day I taught Mrs. Sasaki how to make
snickerdoodles. I always have snacks and drinks on hand to serve unexpected visitors. This
afternoon Makiko, a woman who visited church for the first time a couple of weeks ago,
stopped by with her friend. I sent them away with a little package of brownies.
In the past two weeks we've had several people over for dinner at different times -the
Obara family, the Yanagisawa family, Mrs. Takada, and the Kanaya family. It's a thousands
times easier to get Japanese over for dinner and a visit than to get them to come to
church. Unless we first become friends, most Japanese will never listen to the gospel
message we bring. We've found having people to dinner to be one of our most effective
forms of evangelism.
(4) My responsibilities to American supporters and DFM (Division
of Foreign Missions) include answering letters, writing newsletters, filing
receipts, sending a quarterly financial report to DFM, scheduling services for our
furlough, and itinerating in American churches. Ron and I usually itinerate separately as
much as possible in order to visit as many churches and pastors as possible. Although it's
not the ideal situation (many churches want to see the whole family together), we don't
really have a choice. Church planting in Japan requires that we stay in Hachinohe and take
care of services and evangelism. We can't leave without someone who is fluent in Japanese
to take our place. In 1998, we found a retired missionary couple to Japan (Donnel and
Venda McLean) who were willing to come for 3 months. Without them, we wouldn't have been
able to itinerate at all, even though we were due for a furlough in the States (we are
supposed to be on the field for 4 years and spend the 5th year visiting churches). On the
other hand, with just a few months to visit supporters, we would never have been able to
raise our budget if we had traveled together.
Of course, I am not able to do all of these tasks alone. My husband, partner, and best
friend, Ron, shares in all of these responsibilities, in addition to preaching and
teaching. We also spent many long hours repairing and remodeling the old rental house
we're living in so that it could be used as a church. We had a lot of work to do including
sheetrocking, painting, wallpapering, laying carpet, hanging curtains, etc. The church
dedication was on March 3, 1997, and we began holding services on March 9th.
I hope that you have a better idea of what my role as a missionary mom is. Please feel
free to write back if you have more questions. We'd love to hear from you. And we'd love
for you to join us in reaching the millions in Japan who have never had the opportunity to
hear the Gospel.
--Debbie Galbreath